Right now I'm in a space where I can recover. Yes, it's still a challenge and it takes time but I've come a long way and is in the healing process. A lot of healing work has been done on my part. There are things that do not affect me the way it would have a long time ago. Accepting things for what they are or for what it was is part of the healing process. Changing what I can is another part. Deciding what to take on or what not to take on is something that has to be learned. Reprogramming my way of thinking is one of the tools I use to change my life. Although some of my thoughts and values are the same, there are some that has changed. The people and situations has to change, meaning it's okay to let go of some people and situations. Listening to yourself and your feelings helps. Questioning the reasons why you are feeling or reacting in a certain way. Is it out of fear? Is it out of jealousy? Is it because I feel pressured? Evaluating these things will help to determine why you do what you do. This will help you to make better decisions and choices. It may take a while to get use to but it's necessary and worth it.